But unfortunately, this screening process that’s going on inside a man’s mind is largely unconscious.
This is part of the reason why so often a woman will ask a man why he’s feeling one way or another… or why he’s acting different or not interested in a relationship, and he can’t explain it. It’s just the way he feels. Either he feels attracted, or he doesn’t.
Of course, these “biological buttons” aren’t the only thing going on inside a man’s mind. Men do have more conscious processes for the way they choose a woman and for the way they feel.
If trying to cram all this into your head, understand what it means, and figure out how to respond to all these things while trying to have a real conversation with a man seems ridiculous and daunting to you – it should.
The reality is that you can’t sit and think to yourself, “Gee, I’d like him to think I’d make a good mate who could rear successful and healthy children. I’ll tell him about how healthy my family and I are.”
“A man looks at much subtler ‘cues’ about a woman that tell him whether or not she’s a good long-term prospect.”
It just doesn’t work that way. A man looks at much subtler “cues” about a woman that tell him whether or not she’s a good long-term prospect.
Some of these cues are:
Physical Appearance:A man will unconsciously register your hip-to-waist ratio and will possibly feel physical attraction based on this since it’s an indicator of fertility.
Good Health:Things like how white the whites in your eyes are, your scent, and the tone and nature of your skin are all subtle indicators of a healthy immune system. Men find white eyes, certain scents, and smooth skin attractive not because they know they indicate that a woman is healthy and will have a high likelihood of success for offspring, but because they feel attracted to these things for reasons they can’t even explain.
Emotional Fitness:If a woman has the kind of attitude and “vibe” about her that is fun to be around, stimulating, exciting, and positive and consistent, then a man will subconsciously see her as a good long-term mate.
It could take a long time to figure out all the things that truly interest and attract men, as well as the more subtle and complex things that make a man become EMOTIONALLY INVOLVED with a woman.
And even then you might not arrive at what is really going on with men, and how to make a relationship come together and work.
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