Have you ever misled yourself as a leader? Who’s willing to admit that? Self-deception is a damaging thing at the root of a lot of conflict.
We go through a process where we justify our false beliefs by blaming others; we control circumstances or people; and we deny the truth and our contributing role to the problem. It’s especially destructive at the top of the leadership food chain, where large, dominant egos dictate action.
If you’re in the role of influencing others, and are in conflict, think this through: Self-deception that goes unchecked is blinding to the true source of a conflict. Further problem-solving and brainstorming for solution will only make matters worse at this juncture. Lets look at the train wreck that self-deception creates.
5 Unfortunate Outcomes of Self-deception in Leadership
1. Camouflages the truth about oneself 2. Corrupts your view of others and your circumstances 3. Crushes your credibility and the trust others have in you 4. Inhibits your ability to persuade others 5. Hinders wise decision-making The extent of your self-deception will really determine how much your happiness and ability to lead others will be undermined. Is your performance, or those you oversee suffering? Then you may need intervention. But it takes a humble man with great self-awareness to admit standing in that space. How engaged and motivated are the people you influence at this point should clue you in.
Fortunately, having a good internal radar system (self-awareness, y’all) to recognize this leadership trap can get you out of trouble. You can start by sharpening your vision, resetting the desire for great teamwork and collaboration, redoubling your accountability, trusting those around you to do the work, speaking clearly what it is you want done without sending mixed messages, setting the course with clear direction without wavering (where do you truly want to go?), and last but not least….listen, listen, and listen some more to the people you influence. They may have all the answers you’re looking for.
You can then leverage your leadership strengths, view yourself and others more positively, and resolve resistant personal and professional relationship problems.
To your success,
Marcel - See more at: http://www.coachmarcel.com/2012/11/21/5-unfortunate-outcomes-of-self-deception-in-leadership/#sthash.4hn7FtM3.dpuf